Tuesday, July 24

Guest Post : Regaining your Sense of Self in the Midst of Motherhood


Being a mother is one of the greatest gifts in life. Having a child that you brought into this world is an unreal and unparalleled feeling. However it is also one that can be all-consuming and it’s easy for new moms to get lost in motherhood, identifying only as a mom and nothing else. The realization that you’ve lost who you are aside from being a mom can be a startling one, and it’s important that you take the steps necessary to regain your sense of self.

1.   Find a hobby that you do solely for yourself. 
A lot of new moms grapple with mommy guilt over doing something solely for them and not their kids, but it’s OK, and even necessary, to still make time for your own individual hobbies and interests. You will be doing both yourself and your kids a favor by showing them that pursuing your individual interests is important.

2.   Make it a point to get dressed every day. 
It’s easy to fall into a routine, especially if you’re a stay at home mom, where you get up and stay in workout clothes or sweats all day long. However this can take a toll on your self-esteem without you even realizing its happening. Take the time to get dressed every day, to fix your hair, to do something that makes you feel pretty. This will help deter feeling like you’re in a slump or like you aren't worth the time or effort. 



3.   Schedule regular dates with girlfriends, sans kids. 
Making regular dates with your girlfriends without the kids in tow is important for your own sanity. You need to see your friends occasionally and be able to kick back and gossip with them for a few hours. The mental break that it will provide will extend far past the evening out. 



4.   Make time for your spouse. 
Many new parents make the mistake of devoting every ounce of their time and energy to their new baby. While it’s important that you both bond with your child, it’s also important that you carve out a few hours here and there for one another so that you keep your connection fresh. It’s easy to go days, and even weeks, without talking about or doing anything unrelated to your kids, which is why it’s imperative that you create time for one another.

Don’t fall victim to the ideology that you’re a bad mom because you still pursue your own interests or have a life outside of your children. The key is finding a healthy balance between the two. Yes, you are a mom, but you’re also your own individual person, and it’s important that you hold onto that.


Author's Bio
Nancy Parker was a professional nanny and she loves to write about wide range of subjects like health, Parenting, Child Care, Babysitting, nanny background check tips etc. You can reach her @ nancy.parker015 @ gmail.com


Thank you Nancy for taking time to write this post for Haus of Parenthood. Happy 3rd Birthday to my little girl, Sophia. I will be posting up pictures of her simple birthday affair tomorrow!


xo, Ashley

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